Honorary Father's Day

There are a list of continuous reasons why my dad could never be forgotten and it’s not just because he was my dad. It’s that he was someone that could not be replaced. His personality was unmatched to anyone I'd ever met before.

1. He loved unconditionally sometimes too much

2. He was stubborn as fuck and always believed that he was right

3. He made me coin the term “goody cakes” to refer to sex

4. We talked about the hard stuff, the taboo stuff, the shit that most parents wouldn’t even openly talk about with their kids

5. He exhausted himself helping others

6. He danced and laughed as if he hadn’t gone through painful times

7. He was a goofball and never was afraid to be himself

8. He was intelligent and knew it, such a Virgo thing

9. He had to cancel the microwave out so that he could see the time from his couch

10. He never had much, but that didn’t stop him from being happy

11. He hated cooking and hated grocery shopping even more

12. He went on sabbaticals to clear his mind and take a break from the outside world

13. He made me feel seen even when no one else was looking

14. He could see the potential in every one of his children even if their dream looked near impossible

15. He could move an entire room with his words and not even plan it

16. He was prideful and boastful almost too much

17. He ALWAYS made time for his kids no matter where he was, what he was doing, or who he was with

18. He didn’t judge people based on their situation, he met everyone exactly where they were

19. He was kind in so many ways

20. When you needed him, he was there despite all obstacles

21. No matter what he went through, he overcame it. He taught me what the definition of perseverance was

22. He was a teacher able to get anyone to understand the mechanics his teachings

23. The way he died was visibly unfair and he had so much left to give

There are so many more things and this list could go on forever, but the simple fact is, he was different. He was beyond what his time had made for him and while life wasn’t fair to him he didn’t care, he didn’t let that stop him from trying and growing and overcoming. I know most of you like me probably thought he was going to live until he was 100 because I did. I didn’t see him leaving this world until I was an older woman. And thats what hurts the most. We didn't get enough time.